What then are the right methods?
There are essentially five methods to happiness, the three “No’s” and two “Should’s.”
The Three “No’s”:
First, do not compare. The more we like to compare with others, the less likely we are to find happiness. Take as an example a person who owns a high-performance luxury car; if he likes to compare, he is sure to find someone in his circle of friends who has a better car. As in the saying “there is always a better man, a higher mountain,” even if the person excels in everything now, there is no guarantee he won’t be surpassed in a year or two. If he chooses to compete again at that time, he will find himself in a very tiresome chase. To compare is not necessary in life, but it is often the cause of great suffering.
~ Depicted from THE PAPER TIGER - The Tibetan Buddhist View on Happiness